Found out tonight. Only thing that kept me from killing myself was my friends. I wasn't even paying attention to my speed on my bike. I looked down once and was doin about 140 in a 45. Im sure this has happened to some of you and its the worst feeling in the world.

End of story
- Brian

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I removed the 2 prior posts because what the fuck guys. Really In a moment like this you don't joke around.

All you can do is let him talk let him vent his frustrations, and the best we can all do is offer an ear and ask them if you can help any other way.
Whats important now computer (Brian_ this is odd lol) you need to refocus on the things you really want.
Also you can't blame every woman in the world ( not saying you are just trying to cover this one) you can moap around and feel bad, you can cry you can suffer. But do not dwell on it. Trust me all it will do is damage. And you can't allow that to yourself to happen. Best way to lift your spirts brian is to move on. Move on better yourself, become a new man, find a new even hotter girlfriend. And show your ex that not only you guys breaking up was was a good thing. You YOU turned out for the better. Envy's a bitch, but when your being envy'ed its just better.

At moments like these its important to remember, that you are important. And thinking about ending it all is not an option. (part of this being that i won't let you. I erase bot accounts not delete members lives lol )

Now i'll pull the standard line. However unlike alot of people i actually do mean it. If at any moment you need to speak to someone, You can always say something to me, and i will reply and offer the best advice that i can. Just please don't think that this is the end.

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How long were you guys together? That doesn't matter much but anyway, Mikey is exactly right. Killing yourself isn't the best thing to do. You shouldn't dwell over her either, because if she was cheating on you, it probably means she wasn't worth your time anyway. It's probably best for you to just move on and find that one girl.

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"Better to have loved than never to have loved at all. Only in time can one learn to love again."

those quotes although cheesy speak volumes.

The pain is gonna be bad and the only thing that will really heal it is time man. Also this may not be the last time this happens to you. Cheating in relationships has got to be on the top 5 of worst things that happen to people. It damages ego, lifestyle, social situations and heart. And the things the mind does after this and how it effects people's psyche is shitty. However, doing anything drastic and out of the ordinary is letting someone who is lower on the totem pole than you get the better of you. It's true and don't let it win and bring you down. Do what's expected, be hurt, mourn, and wake up each day stronger than before. You can do this and if it helps think of it as "it was't meant to be." You can do this.

A few of years ago I found out that my girlfriend of 3 years was cheating on me...which shouldn't of suprised me since "anything that can happen WILL happen" especially being in the military. We both met in the Air Force and thought we were both the best thing that could of happenned to each other. We went through everything together...9/11, being deployed to Afgahnistan (sp?) and Iraq, both at seperate times, losing friends, etc. and pulled through it all together. I honestly never thought she would ever do such a thing but I guess human nature takes over after being apart for so long...

Long story short, she left me for the other dude, I turned all emo and got medically discharged for being mentally unstable, tried to commit suicide twice (I can relate to the driving at high speeds and not knowing what your doing syndrome). I was a nutcase for a while. Took me almost 2 years to get over my "grief".

In the end I ended up with a beautiful wife (which is a whole different set of troubles lol) and I look back at those days as a learning experience. Trust me, the pain kills at first...but as time goes by so does the hurt and angst. I don't really know you Brian but I just thought that by sharing what happenned to me it would show you that you're not alone. I remember staring out my window some days and wondering why I was the only one hurting and how the world could just keep on going. Well that's just it...life goes on and so will you. Trust me, fate has much better plans in store for you

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Never had that experience myself, but at least three of my friends have been through the exact same thing, partners cheating on them.

All I can do is give you some advice on their part, don't shut them out and disappear because they will be extremely worried about you. They are friends. They want to help and be there for you, let them and you will start to feel better much quicker.

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That's terrible man, I hope you can get through it. Nothing is worth killing yourself over. Learn from it, move on, become a better person from it. And like Mandos said don't shut people out, allow them to help you. Imagine if a close friend of yours had gone through this and how much you would want to be there for them, let your friends be there for you.

~cheers

Omg dude....seriously you could have died..... I know it sounds cliche'...but it's not worth it! I was cheated on one time too...and had a sick horrible night..and broke up with her. But then...met the most precious girl I have ever seen and dated for 3 years. She died in a car crash =( but I would NEVER take back that first g/f to have never met her. You just don't know where your life will lead.

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Hey puter


Its a pretty crappy thing to be cheated on. Assuming you arnt 60+ years old and you still have all your limbs, you'll be fine.

Id go on, but theres really no point. Every piece of advice is a horrible cliche and sounds more like a joke than advice. I think the important thing to remember is that fate, destiny, serendipity and all that other stuff is a total load of horse jizz. Dont sit around trying to forget her or "move on" just do whatever you think is best. All the advice in the world isnt going to help. What I always hate about situations like this is that you have no choice but to sit around wait until it doesnt bug you anymore.

That or you could just go dive in head first and flit and date girls like crazy until you cant remember her name. I know from personal experiance thats the best idea.

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RIP Shiloh

Forget the bitch, move on.

"Y'know there's a million fine looking women in the world, dude, but they don't all bring you lasagna at work. Most of them just cheat on you."

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Its been the hardest 2 days of my life in the 23 years ive been around. Its fine when i have friends all day to help me and talk to me. Its worst at night and in the mourning when i have nothing to do but think about it. I havent ate or slept in 2 days. Im just trying my best to hang in there. If one good thing comes out of this it's i know i have friends by my side who will be there any time of the day if i need them.

And i did call the girl up last night and talked to her for about an hour. Its the worst just not knowing why someone would do this. Im just trying to find some closure. I dont know how many more days i can go with this feeling in my stomach. If you have been there you know what im talking about.

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this sucks compy. You've always seemed like a sweet dude, and no one deserves to have that done to them regardless. Whenever my heart gets broken and all my hope is flushed down the toilet I turn to: ffxi, friends, drawing, writing, music (listening and playing), reading, the internet.... I try to remember that I'm cool and attractive and I try to remember what I did to feel content before meeting that person and get back to it.

It's not gonna be easy, you're gonna feel like shit for a long time and a lot of things are going to hurt and remind you and all that. Depending on just how terrible you're feeling you may want to consider using drastic measures for closure like burning everything you have that reminds you of her or that she gave you, taking some time off from work/school and go to spend some time out of state with a friend or relative and have some rebound shag with someone you'll never see again. Sometimes something as simple as changing your sn, e-mail, and phone numbers are effective too... it helps you to know that people aren't calling because they can't not because they can and just aren't cuz they're too busy banging the free world.

If you need someone to talk to or w/e you can pm, e-mail, or im me.. I have a lot of experience with matters of the heart. And let this be a lesson to you... I like to cheat first in every relationship I'm in just to have that security to say 'we/ i cheated on you first, and could cheat on you again at anytime" it also softens the blow a lot when you've done it.. because you know the grass always seems greener but never is.. she'll regret and be miserable.. take some comfort in that but no that she'll never show it to you and you won't get that sattisfying closure you want.

reality bites

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Shes is never going to tell you. She will only make things up and even if she is honest, it wont help. You'll never get the closure you want from her.

Depending on how long you dated or how deeply you were involved, the closure could take a long long time. It may never come at all. I think the hardest part about losing someone you love (because they cheated or left you) isnt really the reasons why. So closure isnt going to really help. the reason is that you now have to stop loving someone. I mean its not exactly as easy as it sounds. Even if they did something horrible to you. Its the conflict of emotions that leaves you feeling so frustrated.
Sure it might seem easy to hate her because she hurt you, but really this is someone (again depending on the depth of the relationship) you loved and to love someone is to care about someone so much that nothing else matters. Of course that depends on how much you loved her or what you consider love.

To overcome this problem you first need to figure out what love is to you.

Now allow me to be a little "Emo Yarr"

To love someone is to care about someone who brings you happiness. To care about that person so much that nothing they do can really tarnish how you really feel about them. To love someone is to look past their flaws and all the things "wrong" they do and to still feel love towards them.
I dont subscribe to the line of thought that love is something you can only feel with the person you are ment to be with and all that bullshit. There is no fate, there is no best path in life. You cant mess up with the "one" because there is no "the one". Love is just a level of how much you care about someone. To me once you really, really, really care about someone it becomes love and that to me is unconditional. Thats why its so hard to lose someone you love. Because you know deep down you can always forgive them, of course it would be a stupid move to ever be involved with them again. Forget but not forgive remember.

You feel sad now, but the reality is that one day you are going to replace her with someone else. You'll look back on this and not really understand how you let yourself felt this way.

The answer to the problem in most cases is actually the reason for the problem. Emotions fade with time. Good and bad.

You can keep talking to her and look for an answer, but youre just feeding the emtions and not letting them fade. The best solution is just to walk away and try to figure out where your next step is going to be.

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RIP Shiloh

Yarr is right. Feelings fade over time. You are going to let yourself feel like absolute shit only if you let yourself. However yarr knows that its much easier said than done.

You need to find things to distract you and make your mind focus on other things. Also if you need to talk to me you can pm or call my cell. I can pm you that if you want. As long as your in the same country i'll talk to you omg!

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The mikey's have a plan. Djay isn't all powerful.

don't trust mikey, he gave me his cell number one time and some old lady answered who couldn't speak english and had never heard of a mikey

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yeah really lol. People saying "dont think about it" is pretty frustrating.

Its like going to a movie and sitting in the first row and someone saying "just ignore the movie and carry on like normal, but dont leave your seat."

I mean you can sometimes stop thinking about it, but you know its always there.

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RIP Shiloh

Even the most 'honorable' and 'good' people do terrible things they later regret. Doesn't instantly mean the girl is a bitch and worthless, and you wasted your time. But she did ruin something beautiful. And that is sad =(

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First time i smiled in days.

We talked a little when she came to drop my stuff off. She denied everything. Its what i expected

And for me love was knowing she was going to be there when i needed her. She was the reason i wanted to get out of bed. She was the reason i wanted to leave work. Now there is a huge void and i just dont know how to fill it. It was the happiest i had ever been in my entire life and now im at my lowest.

I can sit around and be fine about it. All it takes is one thought and i look at my motorcycle key and debate driving it into a tree or not. Its like what doesnt remind me of her. She was my best friend for over a year and a half.

In the end ill be fine i think. Its hard but i have ways to vent. After all, last thing we need is another emo kid on these forums


On a side note im a Decent Challenge now

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OK I 100% know where youre coming from. I spent almost 6 years with princess. We spent pretty much all our spare time together. We had specific shows we always watched together and we had things we always did. We had a very nice routine down.

Then it all changed. I didnt like watching our shows alone. I hadnt talked to my friends in years (I made the choice to put my gf over my friends, bad move) and the last thing I wanted to do was hang out with my family (including talisin).

Figuring out how to kill my spare time was rough. I had a handful of friends who came to my rescue (my nerds from my computer store took me out some old friends I called up). Over all though I had like 90% of my time free. Im sure you know exactly what im talking about.

What did I do?

I had to start doing new things. I made new friends through my old friends. I got to know my brother in law (who was just my sisters boyfriend at the time) and made some friends when I was out with them. Now I have a 100% different lifestyle and I look back and actually regret a lot of choices.

My point is that how you feel now is going to be totally different down the road. You cant snap your fingers and fix your head. The harder you try the more youre going to want to drive into a wall. Just sit back acknowlage whats going on and take it all in. Just do what you can and dont try to force anything. Emotions fucking suck.

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RIP Shiloh

Comp........Ive been there done that. I do feel your pain man. You probably seeing each day as darkness. What got me thru was to "FOCUS" on myself, to make myself stronger Mentally and Physically. Have that mind set that "SHE MADE THE BIGGEST MISTAKE OF HER LIFE". I personally hit the gym harder (got me to incline press 275..woohoo). It got me out of the house and also made me more determined to get past the "pain in my stomach". Stay away from her. You gotta believe in yourself man...this is were you have to start.


Grim

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On topic though. Compy really dude, suicide? Over a girl that you've known for 1.5 years? Not only is suicide retarded as it is, but I'm sure you didn't know her as well as you might think. I.e. skeletons in her closet. Personally, I'd try talking to her or something.

I don't have any first hand experience on this because relationships at my age don't hold much weight, so I let these things pass me by. And I'm not very good at offering comforting words, but seriously, if she's willing to cheat on you, she's not worth your sorrow. You'll never forget her, but move on anyways.

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i would offer some words of comfort but i don't think it needs to be reiterated at this point that suicide = bad. girlfriend cheating on you = not worth your time.

When I'm upset i think of what Jay and Silent Bob might say to the situation..

In this case i think it would be ... "One bitch, a million faces"

Just go find one that's better looking

Women are the devil. Only thing that can truly hurt a man irl

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On a side note to get my mind off things i paid 10$ to see a movie tonight. It was with that dude from the matrix. Had Woody Harilson and Robert Downey. Had some cell shading and drugs. It was decent

Im kinda worried that this whole situation is getting in the way of work. I have 2 12hr shifts this weekend and that involves nothing but free time. Im trying to figure out what to do to keep my mind off this shit

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