How does everyone feel about love? I'm pretty sure most are in the same age group (18-25) and I'm just curious to see what others think.

Discuss.

Love is one of the greatest things people can have. Its something that you just feel about someone. Its also something you wish people feel about you.
Its one of the greatest feelings in the world when you can love someone and know that they love you back. Its unconditional and should only bring happiness. Even when you fight with someone you love you always know it was nothing and always feel bad about it.


Great....now I feel lonely......

I think the post Rydall made in the Quote thread really sums up how I feel about love. That there is no such thing, only a comparison between both. I think people who sit around never having felt the pain of a real broken heart can't ever say they know what love is. Thats not to say its impossible. Im just saying that you will never ever understand or appreciate what love is. Theres a difference between being in love and knowing what love is.

I also dont believe in "one" true love, like soul mates. I think there are many people out there who are right. I think its up to us to make things real. Its up to us to get over the problems and make things work. No relationship is perfect, its matter of being able to look past flaws.

Take my recent social life for example. I met someone a few days ago who seriously knocked me off my feet. With out question she is the most beautiful person Ive ever had the plesure of being friends with. Soft smooth skin, amazing hair, beatiful eyes, seriously funny and a smile that is so cute I want to just watch her laugh all day. I honestly have the biggest crush haha. Its put a lot of things in perspective. There was also this feeling I had when I met her. I felt like I knew her, like I had known her for a long time and I was being re-introduced. Its an odd feeling. I wasnt alone. After we sat down she qucikly asked if we knew each other. We assumed it was because we went to the same high school (although in different grades) but then found out that I left when she transfered over. So really, there was no way we knew each other. Its a rare feeling Ive only had once before, but it wasnt like this.

Is that love? Who knows.

Anyway, thats as much personal information as youll ever get out of me so enjoy it haha.

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Yeah, I'm not exactly the most socially extroverted person although I'm quite familiar with loss. Love is pretty much absent in the relationship sense right now though. Its not something I'm terribly worried about though.

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mattis icon makes me so hot i cant even think!

ok, I'm about to get personal here.

Ever since I was ten years old I had this idea, this dream. My family was never close and very shut up about emotions both dealing with and showing. But I had the oppurtunity to see others that were very loving and tender towards each other. That is when I made up my mind. I've had my 'life' planned out from that point on, I've had my children's names picked out, the timing, and what I want. This isn't about falling in love so much but finding someone to grow old with.

Over the years I have had first hand experience with what some would call 'love' and other may call attraction or infatuation. Have I been in love? I think so but without a relative point for comparison I couldn't tell you. I'm a hopeless romantic so I have this tendency to MAKE things go the way I want in hopes that this will be the relationship to end all.

I had an experience recently that made me realize some things about myself. First, I'm the worst kind of guy there is. I always know the right things to say and I can turn things off without a problem. By 'things' I mean emotions, I grew up hard and it has made me into something I'm not sompletely satisfied with but oh well.

Sorry, this post has kind of wandered off a bit. back on topic! Love~ My last relationship made me doubt my ability to love. I'm just not sure if I can make myself feel things like I did when I was ten yet ALL I want in life is to fall in love, get married, have two little girls, and grow old raising my girls the way I wish I was raised. Sorry for the depressing ass post haha

I disagree with Yarr in that there is a true love for everyone. You may have something with this girl Yarr so I would try my hardest.

If and when you find it youll know. Love doesnt just come to you though, you have to work like a bastard to get it. Its not something that will just land in your lap.

Love is just knowing that the person your with is someone you would want to grow old with. To have kids and start a family with. To go through those hard times and stick with them. Its knowing more about someone then anyone else does but still longing to know more. Its about knowing what they are thinking just by looking in their eyes. Love is when you can look into a persons eyes and never want to look away from them.

Ok, here comes the old woman's perspective. Having known and lost love, I believe love is an extension of friendship. It's being friends and having that chemistry going too. The most important thing about love I think is that you see the person for who they are, faults and all. The thing about love is that it makes you not mind the faults. It makes you look beyond surface, to what is the heart of a person. It's never easy. It has to be worked at every day. But at the end of the day when you can look at that person and say "I'm so glad I'm with you" it makes the work worthwhile. It's comprimises. It's fighting. It's everything that friends go through and more. It's knowing that when they are gone, even though you know what happens, you wouldn't trade a moment of having been with them. Both the good and bad.

Cyn

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Yarr's love slave.

the new pink setup fits this thread well.

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RIP Shiloh

yarr is right, this pink is subliminally making people think about love

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RIP Shiloh - I'll never forget ya

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RIP Shiloh - I'll never forget ya

Thanks for posting that Whisp....now im all upset..... I wish I could find someone......

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Thats another thing. I dont think someone can be good in a relationship unless they know how to be happy on their own. Someone whos scared to be alone will cling onto a relationship that isnt real or jump into a new relationship far before they should.


but thats just my opinion, theres no fact to that other than my own feelings and what other people have told me from their experiance.

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OMG I just cried irl....

Man, we have some pretty intelligent people playing this game with us. Some have said some pretty insightful stuff about love. Yarr made a very good point about people who need to be with someone to feel completed or whatever, but won't really be happy until they can be a whole person on their own. I also totally agree with Cyn about the whole seeing past a person's faults thing. As well as an extension and furtherance of a friendship. That was good too.
My brother performed my sister's wedding last winter, which was pretty cool btw. I liked how he described love in the service: Love is recognizing another person's shortcomings, and committing to that person in spite of them. Also, love is two people sharing a room in which one of them is too hot, and the other is too cold. It's all about compromise.
I have learned in my old age that love is both something that you can't have if you go out looking for it, and can't ever find if you sit on your butt and do nothing. OK that totally made no sense, lol. Basically you can't force things to happen, they just do. But you have to be ready to act when the right person comes along.

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i liked orignals last paragraph, it spoke to me

i love myself sometimes

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with your hand or your belly button?

no fool, i mean sometimes i love myself most of the time though i don't nothing to do with touching oneself

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ohh ok jes asking

Well, I'm only 16.. and I guess some people could argue that I know nothing about love. But I do have to agree with Cyn completely, just because with my experience, I have never, ever, truely liked anyone when I first met them. Everyone I have grown to love are those who have given me their friendship, then before I know it, I get this weird feeling that I don't get with anyone else. This feeling in my stomach when they and many others are not around, yet I miss that person more than anyone else. I have never been able to understand why I like a certain person, I just do, and it just happens. So I don't neccassarily agree that when you find someone you love that you know it, because it could be someone you'd never expect, atleast for me.

Matti, I don't think your the worst kind of guy, if you have had a goal since you were 10 to get married and raise 2 great children. I think that says a lot of good things about your character . I don't know a lot of guys who have been hoping for that.

If I have kids they are going to have ADHD +5....

its going to be horrible

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my entire sentence didn't make sense

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Do you ever make sense?

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