hmm I think the problem is that tv is conditioning girls to be messed up. all they show are pictures of skinny blonde girls with hot, rich boyfriends. same with guys, in that they see that everyone woman on television is hot, sexy, thin, and available.. so that is what guys think every woman should be like. everyone is so infatuated with the perfect bodies, that they forget that personality matters at all.

and people watch television alot!! I know most people in ffxi don't watch it much, but geeze.. run a search on google for the amount of television the average american watches...

I don't think it is that girls like mean guys, but it is that the feel like they should, because images of happy relationships aren't shown very often on television.

I can go on and on about this, because it i think it is really going to be sociality’s downfall. and is a big part of why I'm not in drama and communications anymore.

but to wrap it up... maybe your not meeting the right kind of girls. I'd look for dates in bookstores or libraries, because there is a pretty good chance that those girls aren't watching television as much as others. so they probably are able to make their own decisions on what they like and not have to look towards what is hip.

Sorry if this sounds ridiculous, but it is the best theory I could come up with on why people act so stupid.


PS! go far it jim! if nothing comes out of it, than atleast you've made a new friend :D

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"The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one." -- Elbert Hubbard, 1856-1915

Its a good quote for this situation.

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I just deleted three posts that were totally retarded, off topic and spam.

This is what im talking about. Cut it out.

A good thread like this doesnt need usless garbage like that on it.

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Definitely go for it, Jim. You never know when you'll meet the person of your dreams. And yeah, girls can suck, but we're not at all bad Sheesh, Matti.

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most are bad tho

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Hey...you said it yourself, buddy...


As for Jim, meeting a new person can always have that effect on you. I wouldn't say rush in, but rather get to know the girl. Once you get a better picture of who she is and how well you relate to eachother, it will be alot easier, and safer for that matter, for you to decide where you'd like things to go.

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can't be anymore true. Really just go like have fun... no need to be worried, scared or insecured the key thing to know is.. u're still just trying to explore about each other right now... if she did mentioned that she's thinking of you, that prob. means that she had good time with u last time she met you ^^~

So just keep up with the fun and enjoy her company. If you take everything so seriously, it could really kills the moment

Just be yourself, and see how you two feel around each other. If you're all sick with worried, surely neither of you can enjoy yourself

Some of my friends get sick with worried like that too when they find someone that make them feel butterfly in their stomache.. I just tell them to enjoy it ^^~ take it lightly and as a compliment when they hint that the feelings are mutual ^^



Yes, but even FF is very conditioning... look at the Elvan, Hume and Mithra Females! Elvans look like supermodel, Hume is a size 2 with perfect skin and hot legs, Mithra... well just pure Mithra!

holy bringing back old posts folks must've been mad bored.. yeh that feeling was cool for about a day, then i hung out with her and she turned out to be lame... that's the way it is for me. w/e i don't care about females anymore..just a waste of time, energy, and money.

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I still stick by my original comment on the situation.

Girls like assholes. I'm not an asshole. I'm going to be lonely for the rest of my life.

me too Matti..me too

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Fuck you Matti and Jimbean, you will not! There has to be some smart girls out there who will realize that you guys are awesome.

<3 Iolanthe, I appreciated hearing that, you probably don't realize it but it means a lot to me. However, I lived off that same very hope for so long, and I just feel beaten down by it now. In my head I know that inevitably someone will turn up. They will show up when I've finally come to terms with being lonely, and I am no longer sad, angry, and frustrated; all the emotions that I am in the grip of at the moment.

And that notion in itself is a really frustrating one to deal and come to terms with. The fact that no one will accept me with what I have to offer atm, that no one will accept me until I've conditioned myself to accept not needing/wanting someone. In my head I hope to be able to learn from what I'm feeling now and to defend myself from becoming vulnerable again. But I know the minute some fine young thang shakes her ass in front of me and has even a few things remotely in common with me, I'll dive headlong into this disaster of emotions again throwing all caution and conditioning to the wind.

I dunno, I'm such a hopeless romantic, and I've had some really great relationships, and experienced/felt some truly amazing things, with and for another individual. The dating and the waiting is like mental torture, and I guess that's why I tend to just cling to any female who is in my life in the hopes that she will be the one to free me from all these thoughts that find there way through the cracks in my walls.. and leave me feeling so restless night after night.

Sometimes I wish I were just some cocky asshole in the club, getting some moronic blonde loaded so i can have my way with her and never call her. like that would sattisfy some resentment I am holding in my heart towards women atm. But the truth is, it would probably just make me feel more empty, lonely and hopeless. All I know is, if there is someone out there, she better surface soon, before she loses me forever.

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sometimes I wish I could clone myself to prove how wrong a statement this is :/
I think in general people are stupid.. whether they are girls or boys. it takes people a lot of growing up to realize what is best for them and even to accept what makes them happy. and I'd say that most people will never reach a point in their lives where they can be just content with love. again.. because modern media tells us that love isn't acceptable now; you must go out, get drunk, and have fun with as many people as possible. that all woman must be big busted blonde cheerleaders and go out with the asshole jocks that have nice cars and that is just the way it will be.

does anyone remember that twilight zone episode, where in the future when young girls reach a certain age, they undergo plastic surgery to make them all look like some beautiful movie star? and in this future all books that even mention love and inner beauty were burned/banned..

I think thats kind of how its becoming now. again... sorry for my media fixation.. but I really feel like this is the reason why so many people are unhappy.

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I just want somone REAL. I hate how shady all these girls are lately. Example: My ex was just like me. (If you don't know, I'm hardcore sXe) now suddenly that we aren't together, all the stuff she hated is her priority. She now drinks and smokes. Why? Beats the hell out of me, she was a completely different person a month ago....

Is this the person she was all along? Was everything faked?

"...Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand..."
~Skin Horse-from Velveteen Rabbit

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jim go for it, you'll never know unless you try. and if she says no, so what many other fish in the sea

hehe I swear to God, people never read the follow-ups

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